Question: How bad it is to exhile man to the couch?

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Answer #1:

My ex tried that with me. I told him to shut the f--k up and go sleep on the couch. He shut the f--k up and slept on the couch.

Answer #2:

For some reason, he is obviously overly sensitive about this issue, so be considerate enough to not bring it up again. The solution to this is simple, so why are you making it worse than it has to be?

Answer #3:

thats why MY house that I paid for is in MY name!

Answer #4:

My man can't take a joke either. I've just quit trying to joke, or find other things to joke about. It sounds like that's his 'power phrase' and he's wearing it out if he says it all the time. I think that usually when a woman exile's a man to the couch, she's probably got a pretty good reason... Not over some joke he gets upset about. Although, if he gets that upset over a joke - (I've done this, by the way...) Look at him with that "you're such an idiot" look, tell him it was a joke, lighten up. I've even tossed my man money before and told him to buy a sense of humor. Then I tell him later how much it hurts that I can't joke with him, he takes it too personal. And then I'd tell him how you feel like he over reacts whenever you try to have fun with him. If that doesn't seem to work, I'd tell him that if he doesn't lighten up, he's gonna end up with a real reason to sleep on the couch. And if he won't, You will (or you'll stay at your mom's) until he apologizes for being an ass. =)

Answer #5:

Why are you pressing his "BIG RED SHINY BUTTON"?
No, not everyone tells there husband they will be sleeping on the couch.
Your husband changes from "our house" to "my house" because it IS his house. You could just as easily say "my house" because "my" is still "ours" when dealing with a married couple. He is just expressing a point.

So you know this is a soft spot for him, but you still want to joke around with it and then feel sorry for yourself after he rants. Did it occur to you that maybe he saw his parents having this issue and it really disturbed him as a child? I know sounds silly, but something just stick with us and never get out of our heads even as adults. This could be disrespectful to him, or he may find it to be against marriage. I mean, why can't two people stay in the same bed even if they are angry with one another? Two rational married adults should be able to.

If I were in your shoes I would fall back on that trusted and well known marriage counselor named "good communication". I would catch my husband in a good mood, sit down with him while handing him his favorite beverage and ask him why he is so sensitive to a matter that is so trivial in my book. I would explain to him that though I may not understand his sensitivity to this phrase I will refrain from using it from that moment on, because I love him and want him to be happy. I would apologize for pushing his BIG RED SHINY BUTTON and hope that we could move forward in a positive manner.

But that's just me. I try to remove the plank from my eye before I try to remove the splinter from anyone else's. And yes I have been in that situation before when I was still immature on the matter.

Answer #6:

I would be more worried about his attitude toward "his house". My husband and I are equal partners as well and pretty much everything is "ours". However he should have freedoms to make his own decisions, which it sounds like he may not. Why are you forcing him to do things? He is an adult. It sounds like you lack general respect for one another and each other as a couple. No wonder he is just "your man".

Answer #7:

don't say it again if you know it upsets him, esepecially if its 'just a joke'... its nasty and not a joke if you know he gets upset.
Not 'everyone' says it all the time... i for one have never said it.

Perhaps talk to him at a quiet time about the other stuff like when you want him to do things and discuss what things he wants to do... if he feels you are bossing him around then work out a list together and get him to write out what jobs he needs to do rather than you being his manager (even though you don't mean it he may feel that way).

Answer #8:

I wouldn't joke about my husband sleeping on the couch because it does make him out to be a wimp who is led around by the nose. Men need their ego's stroked and should never be put down or demeaned. "Sleeping on the couch" has always meant that the husband has been a bad boy and must be punished.

I suggest you don't tell him what to do, but suggest it, ask him if he thinks it's a good idea etc. no matter what it is. And don't joke about things that make him look like a sap. He should be master of his own house! You might want to read Dr. Laura Slessinger's book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"

Answer #9:

goes back to old adage man being king of the castle. but honestly,you are being put in a position of denying your true self by having to guard his ego. you say same thing he does it alright for him and not you joking or not. if he has aquick temper to go with this attitude, you are looking at potentily abusive relationship even if verbal and doesn't get physical.i being older and knowing what i know if i could not talk to him and he be willing listen(without yelling and screaming and calling you names) about you feeling this is one sided,,he can you can't,went thru that with mine it was a real struggle. but kept telling him whatever you do i will do, that is how it is with me and will always be,otherwise i won't be here.and that is my advice to you. life too short to spend bolstering up someones ego.

Answer #10:

well
how would you feel if your husband said that to you.
i know you said it in joke, but maybe your husband is just sensitive too that sorta stuff, you know some woman can be reall bitches and control a man completely





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